Don't we all want to know when a relationship is meant for keeps? Our poll results show that a majority of our readers want to know the key milestones in a relationship that mark its depth and endurance. Ektaa Rupani finds out what goes into the making of a lasting vibe.

Last December, Anita and Nanik Rupani celebrated their silver wedding anniversary. Their contentment with each other and with the long journey they had accomplished together was evident. They seemed to be a perfect counterfoil to each other, mentally and emotionally. People like Anita and Nanik make us want to believe in the the ‘perfect’ couple. But when do people in a relationship feel that their partner is perfect for them? Or if their relationship is for keeps? There are many milestones that can tell you if your relationship is meant to go the distance. Here are a few.

FIGHTS DON’T LAST, TOGETHERNESS DOES

After a spat, it becomes difficult to restore normalcy. In a fit of anger, you may have stooped to any level to degrade each other. But once the fireworks are over, if you still feel the need to reach out to each other, it says a lot about your equation. Those who prioritise the relationship over individual differences have a better chance of making it a long-term one. “People who value their relationship more than their ego never consider leaving an option,” says jewellery designer Gayatri Balani, 32.

“They sort the issue together after they have both cooled off.”

HIS FART IS NO BOTHER

Gross as this may sound, BO tolerance indicates extremely high level of comfort between people. When both partners can shed their inhibitions and be unabashedly themselves, they know they are in it for the long haul.

YOU DO NOT ALWAYS SAY YES

Although compatibility ranks high in making a relationship work, it would be boring if a couple agreed on every issue. When differences of opinion crop up, those who can respect and accommodate them will travel miles together. Makeup artist Sonia Darira, 35, says, “Although earlier I felt it necessary to share my husband’s opinions on every issue, now with maturity, I express my own views. This makes for a much more equal relationship, especially because I know I’m free to voice my opinion no matter how different it is from his.”

SILENCE IS SEXY

Every healthy relationship thrives on space. A couple tuned to each other do not always feel the need to fill silence with words; they are secure in each other’s company and give each other room to breathe. They may each be doing their own thing, and still feel connected. Psychiatrist Dr Ashit Sheth says, “When a couple reaches this stage, they may be silent but peaceful. There is no awkwardness due to lack of communication. No external inputs are required to make them feel comfortable with each other.”